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So what is this going to be? A little bit of everything I think. Maybe that's it. What I'm thinking. What I'm believing. I hope what I'm knowing. And why would anyone care what I think I know? There's no reason in the world that you should. But then why are you here? Cuz you have to be somewhere I suppose. I've never been here before. I may not be back. I might get too busy to care; time is short. That's fine. Nobody can deal with it all at once. There is a lot to deal with.

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I try not to take myself too seriously, but I know I have far too much. So I'm trying to learn how to laugh again, as I had forgotted for a while there. Also I'm relearning to enjoy life; you know, like when we were kids. The biggest challenge ahead is learning how to love God with all my heart, and soul, and mind, and strength. This one is not really that hard when you know the truth. But along with it comes learning to love others as I love myself, and that one is, as they say, "a horse of a whole different color." I think I need to learn to love myself a little more, but the problem may be that I know all these facts about me. Sometimes the facts are simply wrong or they are just stuck in the past. I'm trying to get my facts to line up with the truth. As someone once asked a great man, "what is truth?" If he had only known.

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Sunday, August 12, 2007

Sorrow


C.S. Lewis wrote in his book, "A Grief Observed" the following paragraph:

I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process. It needs not a map but a history, and if I don't stop writing that history at some quite arbitrary point, there's no reason that I should ever stop. There is something new to be chronicled every day. Grief is like a long valley, a winding valley where any bend may reveal a totally new landscape. As I've already noted, not every bend does. Sometimes the surprise is the opposite one; you are presented with exactly the same sort of country you thought you had left behind miles ago. That is when you wonder
whether the valley isn't a circular trench. But it isn't. There are partial recurrences, but the sequence doesn't repeat.

Like all of us do, Mr. Lewis was dealing with grief as best he knew how at the time. But there is one line which I wanted to look at a bit more: "Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process. It needs not a map but a history, and if I don't stop writing that history at some quite arbitrary point, there's no reason that I should ever stop." I think that's an interesting statement. Grief is an emotion that we have to actively stop at some point or it will continue until it consumes us. I would not try to tell anyone else how long it is right for them to mourn, but if they don't overcome grief and sorrow, at some point it will overcome them. No one would really want to be like the renowned Queen Victoria, who worn black the last 40 years of her life.
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~ rachman
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2 Comments:

Blogger S. Scott Craft said...

Grief is a tough thing to get through. I am not sure if you ever 100% shake it, you just kinda have to make yourself go on. Nice picture of C. S. Lewis.

15/8/07 9:57 PM  
Blogger rachman said...

Hi Scott,

Thanks for coming by. It's always good to hear from you.

~ r.

15/8/07 10:29 PM  

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