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So what is this going to be? A little bit of everything I think. Maybe that's it. What I'm thinking. What I'm believing. I hope what I'm knowing. And why would anyone care what I think I know? There's no reason in the world that you should. But then why are you here? Cuz you have to be somewhere I suppose. I've never been here before. I may not be back. I might get too busy to care; time is short. That's fine. Nobody can deal with it all at once. There is a lot to deal with.

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I try not to take myself too seriously, but I know I have far too much. So I'm trying to learn how to laugh again, as I had forgotted for a while there. Also I'm relearning to enjoy life; you know, like when we were kids. The biggest challenge ahead is learning how to love God with all my heart, and soul, and mind, and strength. This one is not really that hard when you know the truth. But along with it comes learning to love others as I love myself, and that one is, as they say, "a horse of a whole different color." I think I need to learn to love myself a little more, but the problem may be that I know all these facts about me. Sometimes the facts are simply wrong or they are just stuck in the past. I'm trying to get my facts to line up with the truth. As someone once asked a great man, "what is truth?" If he had only known.

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Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Top Five People Needs

I said that I would list the next five relational needs of the top ten a few days ago. If you missed the first five, just look below and read up from there. I'm not sure that every one of these is in the exact order of importance, but I do think that they all hold great importance in creating, developing, and maintaining great and lasting relationships. All kinds of relationships. Co-workers. Neighbors. Lovers. Business partners. Family members. The only "need" that I can imagine anyone taking exception over, would be from the first list. Namely, affection. Even affection, if used along with respect for the other person, may mean nothing more than a warm handshake and a kind word. So all these needs have to be applied while remembering the great command: love God and love people. Let's take a look at the top five people needs.
5) We all have the need for appreciation. 1 Cor. 11:2 (Amp.) ~ I appreciate and commend you because you always remember me in everything... ~ This comment is from the great apostle of the Christian church, St. Paul. Even he has needs and he gratefully acknowledges those who remember him. In this age of entitlement, few people remember to say "thanks." As a result many feel unappreciated and in fact most probably are unappreciated. We will never know how far a little appreciation will go, until we sow a little of it into other people's lives.
4) We all have the need for acceptance. Romans 15:7 ~ Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory. ~ Everyone has experienced rejection at one time and more likely many different times. That is what growing up and dealing with peer pressure is all about. Whether you're 14 or 40, everyone wants to be accepted. To be given acceptance without feeling that we have to fit into another person's mold--that is a gift.
3) We all have the need for attention. 1 Cor. 12:25 (Amp.) ~ So that there should be no division or discord...but the members all alike should have a mutual interest in [read: all should pay attention to] and care for one another. ~ Anyone who is around children knows that they want attention. As we age the desire may be covered up, but it never goes away. If you ever visit a nursing home for the elderly, you will soon know how true that is. I'm the first to admit that life is busy, but if we don't have time for people, we don't have time for life. Spend time with people and listen to them. Listen not to reply; listen to understand.
2) We all have the need for comfort. Matthew 5:4 ~ God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted. ~ We will all need comfort sooner or later. It may be after the death of a loved one or after the death of a dream. There are different levels to be sure, but comfort, like support, can only be given if you are there to give it. Don't be afraid to go and offer it. No, they may not always be ready to receive it, but most of the time, they will. Yes, showing love can be scary, but withholding it can be even scarier.
1) We all have the need for security. 1 John 4:18 (Message) ~ There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life—fear of death, fear of judgment—is one not yet fully formed in love. ~ To give people security, you will have to give them love. If children feel loved, they feel secure and safe. It doesn't matter if their college fund is growing or not. If friends, lovers, business partners, or neighbors are all given security, or a feeling of safety around you, because they know you won't turn on them, betray them, cheat them, or steal from them, then they will feel loved and respected even if other things are not perfect.
To a degree we are all called to meet the emotional needs of others. Not everyone to be sure, but the ones we come across in our daily lives, yes. Remember the great command? Love God; love others. When we give appreciation, acceptance, attention, comfort, and security to others, we are loving them. As I mentioned before, meet these needs in the lives of others, and they will begin to be met in your own life as well.
~ rachman


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